My husband and I went to a “moving out” party this weekend in Philadelphia. We had a great time but decided that number one – we are too old to stay out past midnight anymore and two when you are looking to eat chocolate cake at midnight instead of a cheesesteak with salt, pepper, ketchup, you don’t deserve to be out past midnight! But I digress. A high school friend of mine is moving out of one city (Philadelphia) and moving into another (New York). She’s gotten herself a new job in the Big Apple and is moving out of her Philly home. Her house is located around the Art Museum. She’s had several parties and for one reason or another my husband and I have never been able to attend. Since she was moving out of the place, I felt we better get our butts down there for this last party.
All my high school friends were also there. After a few drinks and meeting a bunch of people we didn’t know, the high school crowd ended up outside in the backyard and we pretty much had the space to ourselves. Most of my girlfriends have kids but over the years I can’t remember talking too much about the ins and outs of childcare with them. For whatever reason, the topic of breastfeeding came up. “Did you breastfeed?” I asked. The gauntlet had been dropped. Silence. THE QUESTION was asked. I honestly didn’t know what they were going to say. For some reason this particular subject had never come up with us and now, years later, it was out there.
I held my breath and out it came. The admissions. Yes, all but two (myself included) had breastfed! Or at least tried it. For a bit. Ok, for a couple weeks for the effect of that stuff, whatsit called, oh, yeah, that colostrum stuff. My one friend who had the triplets, yes the triplets, had lastest the longest at about 8 weeks. All the breastfeeders had the same adjectives to describe their breastfeeding experiences. “Really hard” “Latched on at the hospital and then wouldn’t latch on at home” “Baby wasn’t gaining weight and needed to supplement” “I wasn’t producing enough milk” “breast pump was hard to use”.
Now, this was by no means a scientific study but it got me to thinking, why does everyone give us the idea that breastfeeding is going to be so easy? I’m wondering if my group’s experience is similar to what the common experience out there.
Let me know about your breastfeeding experiences. Was it as easy as you thought it would be? Did you give up after a few weeks? Was is a wonderful and fulfilling experience? Would you do it again?
I’m gonna go to bed early tonight and try to recover from my night out. No Tudors for me tonight. Thank goodness Showtime replays during the week!
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